Preparing for the end of someone’s life; be it our own or a loved one’s, is possibly the hardest thing we will have to do. Aside from decisions you have to make, you may need to draw up different documents, and discuss your or your loved one’s final wishes. Final arrangement also need to be discussed, like whether or not you wish to be buried, interred in a mausoleum, or cremated and then turned ashes into a living memorial diamond.

No one knows when death will come and break the calm and happy life.

However, it does get easier when you are willing to start the process long before the time ever comes. This gives you plenty of time to decide on the available courses of action instead of when the actual time comes, making it easier on the loved ones left behind. They will know what the final wishes were, have all the documents in order, and there shouldn’t be any surprise decisions to make because all the final arrangements have already been made.

Final Decisions

When it comes to final decisions, it’s safe to say that not all situations can be accounted for, but having had some prior conversation should make those decisions more bearable. Almost everything can be planned for and this listing is not meant to be all inclusive.

Here a few things you need to discuss with your loved ones to prepare yourself for end of life.

Health Care

While no one expects to pass on while in a hospital or nursing home, it would be prudent to find out what the protocol is for them in your area. While they are prepared to handle such events, knowing what will happen, helps you make appropriate arrangements in the event that you disagree with something.

Use of Hospice

This option is a god send for some, and a burden for others. While those whom work in the hospice industry are typically trained to help and aid both the family and those whom are terminal, it forces mindsets that can be quite hard to swallow. Again, being prepared for what should be done in these instances goes a long way.

Medical Procedure

Confer with loved ones what your beliefs are for medical help. While not quite the same as what health care protocols involve, make sure loved ones know and understand if and why there is a DNR in place, or how long to wait and under what circumstances they are to pull the plug on life support.

Important Documents

There are a number of different documents that should be accessible when the worst starts to happen. Documents like a living will, medical information release, and power of attorney, will prove quite useful. Provided that each set of documents is kept up to date, there shouldn’t be much in the way of added stress.

Each country will more than likely have their own version of the following documents, and this listing is not exhaustive to the number of documents you can have, or should. Please consult your doctor and lawyer long before you ever have to worry about this situation.

Living Wills

Living wills are legally binding and speak on your behalf for your end of life care. They do so when you are unable to do so for yourself. They also minimize confusion or added stress on your loved ones by pointing out what your final medical wishes are, such as a DNR or DNI orders. If you talk with your doctor about your wishes, they can draw up your DNR and DNI orders and have them in your medical file for you without the need for a living will.

Medical Information Release

Due to the nature of medical care, it is important that you have a legally binding release of information or you may find yourself unable to get information. This can extend to medical insurance policies; so it would be wise to have one should the need arise. A legally binding release of medical information allows those designated by you to receive information about your condition and prognosis as well as deal with the insurance company if needed.

Power of Attorney

A power of attorney is quite important and it will allow a person you designate to operate on your behalf when you are unable to do so; for a great many things. While a general power of attorney form encompasses a very broad range of things, you can also be quite specific in who can do what where, and how.

Final Wishes

These are more of a personal nature, and should be discussed at length with your family. In most countries, it may be customary to hold a funeral and a wake, but it may not be quite what you want. Things to consider for your final wishes include how you want your remains handled, specific instructions for the family, and how you would like to be remembered, such as turning your cremated remains into an ever-lasting diamond.

Turning ashes into diamonds and setting it on memorial jewellery become new trends to commemorate a beloved.

Your religious beliefs and life beliefs will play a large portion of this, and can only be carried out if your family knows about it. Otherwise, you will be left with what they think is best at the time. Most family members will gladly follow your last wishes if they know them, so be candid with them and what it is that you would like done when the time comes. Then, they can be assured that what they are doing will make you happy in the afterlife.

Final Arrangements

Almost all of your final arrangements will be cost intensive. You may want to be buried in the back yard under your favorite tree with your favorite book; but there may be laws in place that would prohibit such actions. There are also many laws in place about the spreading of ashes. Please research your area’s laws on the matter before making a final decision.

Cremation

Probably the second most opted form of final rest, cremation reduces the need to purchase a plot at a graveyard or within a mausoleum. Ashes can be kept and quietly displayed at home, or used for living memorials for the remainder of the family. Turning ashes into memorial diamonds can provide loved ones with a unique and special way of keeping someone they’ve lost close by.

Burial

Typical burial is quite possibly the most common form of a final resting place. However, along with the costs of conducting a funeral, you will need to weigh in the cost of a casket and burial plot. Often, a burial plot can be purchased years in advance, but bear in mind that you must read the fine print for the grounds you wish to be laid to rest in.

Entombment

If you feel that being in a graveyard is not to your liking, you can also look into being interred at a mausoleum. While you will still have to purchase a plot, it offers a more accessible way for your family to visit over a grave.

Graveyard – another home to return.

Final Thoughts

Being prepared means knowing what to do in any given situation. Preparing for a loved one’s or your own demise is never at the top of our priority list. But, it is far easier to prepare for long in advance before we may ever enter that typical stage of our lives.

The final decisions one must make are hardest to make when you are not able to. Hospitals and nursing homes may have their own protocols that they must follow to be within legal limits. Hospice services may not always be an option, as they can be costly and lengthy while we struggle to retain life. We may or may not want specific medical procedures carried out on us or our loved ones, so it must be discussed at length.

Have as much documentation readily available when the time comes for your loved ones. This way, they will be able to administer your wishes as you wish. Do not get caught in a position where you are unable to legally know what your medical status is, or deal with other agencies like the insurance company or bank.

Your final wishes and final arrangements should be discussed long before you get to that bridge. There are many options that are available, such as memorial diamonds made from ashes of your loved ones that can be added alongside the customary burials or cremations. Remember that the more prepared you and your loved ones are, the more likely it is that your wishes will be respected and carried out.

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