If you are a mom or a caregiver, it’s easy to focus on others to the point where you neglect your own health and happiness. There is something to be said for selflessness, but it’s also possible to take it too far. When your own health and wellbeing starts to suffer because you tend for the needs of others, it might be time to reevaluate your commitments and start to formulate a plan that will work for you for the rest of your life. After all, if you can’t survive your own strategy for helping others, you won’t be much good to anybody at the end of it.

This isn’t hippy dippy stuff. It’s part of learning a good balance of priorities that all parents and caregivers need to deal with sooner or later. Here are some simple steps to giving yourself long term health and beauty, even as you work hard to make others’ lives the best they can be.

Model the Beauty Standards You Think Are Legitimate. A woman who tends to her appearance communicates something about her poise, capability, and priorities. Sometimes people feel guilty for paying attention to their own needs when they are dealing with people who have needs which seem greater. However, by modeling health and beauty priorities which are healthy, you are giving the people you care for a good example of how to live. So pay attention to the food you eat, to the skin around your eyelids, to the way you dress, and to the amount of sleep you get at night. It doesn’t have to be extravagant, but it should be a way that communicates your values of self care.

Don’t Overcommit. It can be hard for people who clearly see the need in the world, or in their own home, to make commitments that are appropriate. If you’ve got kids, it’s important to find ways to have a life that is your own, even as they continue to take precedence in your day to day. Find time in the mornings and/or evenings to do things that have only to do with you. Read books that interest you. Take on projects that actually excite you and help you grow.

Learn to Delegate. Part of being a good parent or caregiver is to know when it’s time to pass on responsibility to another party. This is a great thing to model for your children especially, who will learn what it means to live a balanced life not ruled by stress and obligation. Being a strong leader means identifying the capabilities of other people and helping them to be unlocked. Delegate authority, and it will help you live and lead a lot more effectively.

There are a lot of ways to live a healthy and balanced life, even when you have a lot of personal demands from people you love and care about. If you need to realign this balance, take some time to relearn what it means to prioritize your needs, for yourself and the people you care for.

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  1. softfree55 says:

    The point describing log term health plan are Good and awesome, But i think you can elaborate them more to make them understandable. Also mention different points according to different lifestyle.

  2. Abdul Rehman says:

    Why the people not believe in adopting simple lifestyles. Simple lifestyle is rather best and appropriate than complicated and complex lifestyles.
    I would advice to adopt simple lifestyles which would help to make life even better

    1. Well said, i hope people like you are the real hero who encourage others to care about their own health. I hope you continue the work as the same you are doing right now

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